The world of sex toys is changing and couple play is the new black!
Everyone knows that 50 Shades of Grey changed how experimenting in the bedroom is perceived and sex toys are part of that. Whether you are a beginner or expert, bringing some toys to bed with you can benefit almost every relationship.
The benefits of sex toys for masturbation are constantly talked about but not only do all the same benefits apply to couple play but there a quite a few extra benefits once there is the two of you playing with toys. Therapists are credited with telling couples to treat their sex life like a hobby that you are both interested in. Finding new ways to make that hobby and play time better makes your sex life better.
Popular culture is changing the way we look at couple play and toys. In Broad City one of the character’s proudest moments is when she pegged her neighbour. Sex toys is about bringing a new element that may just enhance the flavour of what is already on the table, or it may result in an entirely new menu for you and your partner to enjoy together.
Do some research! There are so many types of sex toys, including vibrators and dildos, clitoral stimulation vibrators, vaginal beads for when you want to be naughty on the go, cock rings, butt plugs. So many options it just depends what you’re looking for, jump online and read some reviews. You can use a massager designed to be worn by the woman during sex. Combining clitoral stimulation externally while the penetration is massaging the g-spot. Or just get a swanky new cock ring that makes him last longer, and give you extra pleasure, it’s a no brainer, win-win situation. Then there are remote control devices to have fun with!! Wear a love egg or some vibrating vaginal beads, your partner can control the vibrations over time without anyone the wiser. Take it to dinner, lunch or coffee with Grandma.
When people talk about sex toys they also forget that it is much more than just heavy duty vibrators. Start out with a sensual massage with aromatic essential oils. Light tickling with feathers and all the different flavoured lube you can think of. Look into a beginner BDSM kit. This can contain the classic blindfolds, cuffs, paddles and whips. So whether you’re looking for the ultimate gift for your partner or trying something new, the options are endless once you look into it. When incorporating a new sex toy in your relationship, there are many things to consider. For example, what works when you are by yourself might not be the best to share with your partner. But there are toys out there made specifically for couples having fun.
It brings more orgasms!!! You’ve surely heard the statistic that 75% of women cannot climax from penetrative sex alone. This is a brilliant way to keep the penetration and maybe by having a little vibrator against the clitoris will be just enough to get you off properly.
Talking to your partner about sex toys promotes communication in and out of the bedroom. From when you bring it up, to discussing what you could be interested in to when you are down to business and directing them ‘a little to the left’ brings a whole new level of opening up with your partner. It can be about EXCITEMENT! Getting to shop together, or the joy of surprising your partner with something new. You can plan together, share ideas and research. Or wait until your partner comes home and pull out your new toy. Just make sure you have talked about it with them before you surprise them in the bedroom with anything new that they might not be prepared for.
Get more of an education about you and your partners body. You can feel much more intensity with toys and you can learn a lot more about what feels good and what doesn’t. Where your limits are and where you want to explore more.
Releases stress and releases endorphins! It feels good! You still get all that amazing rush and release of sex and masturbation and the sex work out is always going to feel better than a 5k run. Reduce anxiety, increase the intimacy. For those that sometimes struggle with how they feel about themselves, warming up and getting comfortable can be half the battle. Sex toys help you with that by relaxing before you and your partner get even physically closer.
GET CREATIVE! Technology has come far and the world of adult toys was not left behind. Do some research, find out what weird wacky thing they’ve just invented that might just get you off. Try it all and share how you feel with your partner.
This doesn’t mean that masturbation with toys is no longer possible. They can be used to complement each other. There are some things you can only do with your partner, and there are some things you can only do with a toy with your partner that can’t be done by yourself. Most importantly there is no right way or wrong way. Trust is key when introducing anything new into the bedroom and it is no different with sex toys.
If there are all these benefits, why wouldn’t you? There are legitimate issues, but you and your partner should talk about why this is an issue between the two of you. This alone can bring a new level of intimacy and understanding to the relationship. Some people may take offense, as in they are not enough for their partner. Others may look at it as a relief from the pressure of performance, you can still bring your partner to orgasm with some good vibes, no matter what happens.
They are called sex TOYS because they are there to be played with! Learn about what feels good for you and your partner everyone is different it’s about enjoying the journey in this wonderful sometimes crazy world of sex toys it’s not just all about the destination!
Til next time! Stay beautiful & enjoy life! GET INTIMATE!
Ms Cherry xxx